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The journey to the wedding day may be a winding one. I’m happy to share some tips and tricks along the way. I continually offer ways to strengthen your relationship, and provide additional resources & tools. Scroll on down, and click on a post that interests you. The comments are always open, and I would love to know what you think!
How Do We Manage Our Money?
This is part 2 of a series on money. It’s usually one of the first things we discuss in premarital counseling. A few months ago I wrote a post on talking about money in the relationship. Now is the time to take it to the next step and make some decisions on how to manage your money.
Creating Rituals
We are surrounded by ritual. From our morning routine, to the way we prepare a cup of coffee to saying ‘I love you’ to your partner at the end of every day. However, when I speak to my couples about creating rituals, some look at me with fear or doubt.
How to Talk about Money in Your Relationship?
Money is the number one reason why people get divorced in this country. It’s such an emotional subject, and most of us are never taught how to handle our money, never mind, discuss it. So, how do you talk about FINANCES relationship?
PM Counseling: Getting Out What you Put In
I’ve asked a number of my premarital counseling couples this week, “Are you getting out of the relationship, what you put into the relationship?” In the ROLES in the MARRIAGE conversation, we take a deeper dive into the specifics of what each partner does - and the desire for EQUALITY usually comes up.
The Power of Ritual
As a person who writes and performs wedding ceremonies, I understand the power of ritual. However, I have been talking rituals more and more with my counseling couples. Small gestures incorporated into our daily lives. Why? Because rituals turn the ordinary into something meaningful.
ZEN WEDDINGS: 5 Tips to Ease Wedding Stress
According to a recent survey, 40% of couples said wedding planning was “extremely stressful. And this is for a day that's supposed to be full of JOY. Well, I’d love to help you ease that wedding stress! Here are 5 things you can start doing TODAY, to be a Zen Bride or Zen Groom.
5 MORE Reasons to do Premarital Counseling
If you’re newly engaged I’m sure you’re looking at some timelines and an ever-growing list of wedding planning tasks. I encourage you to take a moment to consider adding premarital counseling to the top of the list. Here are five benefits to digging deep with your partner before you say “I do.”
Premarital Counseling: 25 Questions for You and Your Partner
As you consider marriage with your partner, there may be lots of questions that come up. However, as a premarital counselor, I find that some couples do not know how to begin. Here's a list of 25 questions that I encourage you to discuss together. Is it everything you need to discuss? Heck, no. But it’s a start.
Wedding Affirmations to Keep You Calm
I hear over and over again from brides and grooms that wedding planning can be stressful or overwhelming. Using affirmations is certainly one way to counterbalance that negativity and remind yourselves what the heck you are doing it all for.
The Power of Partnership
The word partnership is used in so many ways in our world. We talk of partners for our businesses or projects, but what about at home? Can we tap into the power of partnership to strengthen our romantic relationships?
Emotional Intimacy in Your Relationship
In PM Counseling, I start the intimacy conversation talking about the EMOTIONAL side. Couples that desire a return of closeness or want to deepen their emotional intimacy, can do so by slowing down and dedicating time and energy to doing things together.
Choosing My Partner Every Day
In a recent premarital counseling session, I brainstormed ways to build connection and schedule regular date nights with one of my couples. Then the groom turned to me and asked, "How do I make sure that she chooses me every day?"
Premarital Counseling: COMMUNICATION
Communication is the first thing we cover in premarital counseling. Why? Because if you cannot openly talk with your partner, it will be challenging to discuss any other issues and concerns or share any care and compliments.
How to be a Zen Bride: PLAN FOR THE FUTURE
Are you ready for the day AFTER your wedding? The wedding is special, but it's only one day. Marriage is hopefully for life. So I invite you to take a pause from planning to prepare for your marriage. I promise that if you know what’s important to you both and feel empowered as a team, you will find Zen and ease as you plan your Big Day.
Vendors I Love: DANCE TOGETHER NYC
After a lovely conversation with Simone, we realized that there are so many similarities in what we do even if the medium is different. I am super excited to shine a light on dance teacher extraordinaire, SIMONE ASSBOECK of DANCE TOGETHER NYC.
You’re Engaged! Now what?
Your partner asked a very important question - and you said YES! Once the initial excitement wears off, and you’ve dabbed your tears of joy, it may be unclear what to do next. I guide couples from the “Yes” to the “I Do,” so I suggest you get on the same page with your partner as you prepare for marriage!
Strengthening Relationships: The Power of Curiosity
Occasionally in premarital counseling I get a couple that asks the open ended question, “What do we need to know?” I usually keep the answer brief and say that in order to build a strong relationship, you need the 2 C’s - Communication and Connection. However recently, I added a 3rd C - Curiosity.
Vendors I Love: PASSION BY KAIT
I met Kait at a Tuesdays Together meeting early in 2019. After introductions, we both looked at each other and knew we needed to connect. Intimacy is one of my Big Issue topics in premarital counseling, however, my genius only goes so far. So, if a couple needs to take a deeper dive, I send ‘em to Kait.
Guest Post: Prenups Made Easier with Mediation
When we think of two people coming together to become one, our initial images may be poetic. However when you look at the logistics of HOW to do it, things may get a bit more complicated. Enter Alnoor and Ehsan from Venn Meditation.
Wedding Yoga: Partner Yoga on Your Wedding Day
Imagine the morning of your wedding. There may be butterflies in your belly based on the excitment or stress of the day ahead. So you grab your partner, and jump on your yoga mats. After an hour of breathing deeply, and moving with intention, you give each other a kiss and say farewell as you start getting ready. How cool is that?