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The journey to the wedding day may be a winding one. I’m happy to share some tips and tricks along the way. I continually offer ways to strengthen your relationship, and provide additional resources & tools. Scroll on down, and click on a post that interests you. The comments are always open, and I would love to know what you think!

Gratituesday 2.12.19 - Walking in the Snow!
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Gratituesday 2.12.19 - Walking in the Snow!

Today is one of those days that you stay inside. And how did I start my day? By walking in the snow! Forecast showed a "wintry mix" with accumulation of 2-4". While all of my appointments changed to phone meetings, I needed to meet a potential painter at my new apartment to get an estimate. So I bundled up, donned my snow boots, pressed play on an old episode of "How I Built This" and started walking.

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Gratituesday 2.5.19 - Discover the Good
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Gratituesday 2.5.19 - Discover the Good

For those of you who may not have been able to read through the cryptic notes and comments over the past few weeks, I am a homeowner again. The process that I experienced in buying an apartment Atlanta versus New York was amazingly different. So while everything was difficult in NY, I am currently trying to discover the good. That also goes for the renovation.

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Gratituesday 1.22.19 - A World of Unknown
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Gratituesday 1.22.19 - A World of Unknown

As I've said lots lately, in living in a World of Unknown. Yes, I've always had lots of flux, but this is ridiculous. I am in the middle of a housing transition and there are regular shifts in my business. Surprisingly enough, I am taking the lack of firm answers and a clear path rather well.

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Gratituesday 1.15.19 - It's Going to Be Okay
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Gratituesday 1.15.19 - It's Going to Be Okay

It's all about perspective. And that good news is that it's going to be okay. I mean, perhaps I just need to repeat the phrase over and over again to believe it. But truthfully most of us are just experiencing first-world problems. We may think that everything is going to shit, but if we look at the details, are they really?

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Celebration Thursday 12.27.18 - Positivity
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Celebration Thursday 12.27.18 - Positivity

In tonight's counseling session, one of my beautiful couples spoke about an experience they shared. When I asked R what he needed, he struggled a bit and his courageous wife finally said, "You'd like for me to complain less." While it was not quite what he was asking, it was a welcome offering. The idea of positivity came up. How can you find the positivity in all things? Or at least in MOST things?

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Gratituesday 12.18.18 - Being proactive
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Gratituesday 12.18.18 - Being proactive

I've reached an age where I'm done "paying my dues." Actually I reached it years ago. Instead of being proactive, I sit back. I'm active and available, but passive. So that means that I am largely waiting for things to happen rather than going out and getting them.

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Gratituesday 12.4.18 - The Rush is On!
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Gratituesday 12.4.18 - The Rush is On!

Oh my gosh, how on Earth is it already December??!! The Rush is On! I feel like I've had quite a few posts that express the quick passing of time. But it does still surprise me. I have started doing more regular to-do lists that look at the day vs. ALL of the things that need to get done. But now the rush is on to complete it all.

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Gratituesday 11.27.18 - Sleeping through Life
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Gratituesday 11.27.18 - Sleeping through Life

So I read a post on social media recently that said that if you're tired, you may not need more SLEEP, you may need to LIVE more. I cannot remember where I saw it, nevertheless it was certainly presented more eloquently than I just said it. Still it totally resonated with me. In fact, it was a complete paradigm shift. Rather than trying to catch up on my sleep, perhaps I am just sleeping THROUGH life.

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Gratituesday 11.20.18 - Not Making Sense
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Gratituesday 11.20.18 - Not Making Sense

I'm a sleuth. I like to find order and put pieces together, especially when things are not making sense. But with many things around me right now - mostly around career and buying an apartment - I spend more time trying to find reason when honestly, there is none. Sometimes it's okay to just not know. Or not waste time trying to figure out the why.

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Gratitudesday 11.13.18 - Finding Solutions
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Gratitudesday 11.13.18 - Finding Solutions

Life isn't easy. I know, I am not sharing anything we don't already know. But we tend to get beaten down by the challenges and disappointments. What happens if we focus on finding solutions? Even tonight during a counseling session, one of the pair had a shitty day and couldn't get out of the doldrums to consider all of the positivity around them.

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Celebration Thursday 11.8.18 - Details & Shapes
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Celebration Thursday 11.8.18 - Details & Shapes

A few weeks ago, my parents suggested I come out to Long Island so we could look for appliances and bathroom fixtures in preparation for the renovation of my apartment. It's all about the details & shapes. There is a part of me that is jazzed to create my home - and then I think it would be so nice if my mother and my friend Carlos would just take care of it and I would handle the move when it's done!

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Gratituesday 10.23.18 - Waiting for Life to Begin
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Gratituesday 10.23.18 - Waiting for Life to Begin

I have never felt settled. I've always felt like I'm waiting for life to begin. For those musical theater lovers out there, there's a song in the musical, 'Once on this Island' with that title. The central character, Ti Moune prays to the gods so she can have assistance to follow her path.

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Gratituesday 10.2.18 - Take it SLOW
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Gratituesday 10.2.18 - Take it SLOW

I speak to people all the time that are overwhelmed. Even this evening, the couple that I met with was already overwhelmed with the options around wedding planning and their wedding is OVER a YEAR away! So I encouraged them to Take It Slow.

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